Sunday 31 May 2015

Sunday Specials: I Was Waiting To Pick Up A Friend At The Airport




I was waiting to pick up a friend at the airport. That day I had one of those experiences that change people‘s lives.

It happened just two feet away from me. I noticed a man, carrying two bags, coming toward me. He stopped next to me to greet his family.

First of all he laid down his bag and came closer to his younger son (about six years old), they gave each other a warm, loving hug. Then the father looked in his son‘s eyes with words: „I missed you so much, it‘s so good to see you, son!“. The boy smiled and said: „Me too, dad“. Then the man talked to his older son (nine or ten years old). „Oh, you are quite the young man, I love you very much!“ and cupped his face. Then they had the most tender hug too. Afterwards the father said „Hi, baby girl“ to his baby daughter. She was squirming excitedly in her mother‘s arm and watching her returning father all the time. The man gently took his little daughter, quickly kissed her face all over and then held her close to his chest. The little girl laid her head on his shoulder in pure contentment.

After several moments the man looked at his wife and said „I‘ve saved the best for last“ and shared with her the most passionate kiss. They stared at each other, beaming big smiles. They reminded me of newlyweds.

Suddenly, I heard myself asking „Wow, how long have you been married?“. „Been together fourteen years, and married twelve of those“ . „Well then, have long have you been away?“. He replied with joyous smile on his face: „Two whole days!“.I was stunned, as I imagined that he had been gone for several weeks at least. I could only say: „I hope that my marriage is still that passionate after twelve years“. The man looked straight into my eyes and told me something that changed my life:„

Don‘t hope, friend, decide!“… 


Olamide~ The Heiress



Saturday 30 May 2015

A Bad Wedding Experience You Should Learn From





Let me first start by apologizing for not posting as frequently as I should have; my table has been filled with lots to do. But not to worry, I would be posting pictures of what we have been up to soon.
Okay, so I attended a wedding some time ago. I have decided to share my experience at the wedding just to buttress the points I have been making. Like I always advise my brides and couples, if you cannot afford a wedding planner, please get a coordinator. 

The Hall
I really do not understand what went wrong with the hall. The size of the hall showed it was to seat a maximum of 250 guests, but the seating arrangement was sooo tight! Plus they had over 850 guests (how that happened, I still do not know). To make matters worse, the Air Conditioners were not working. Apparently when the couple went to pay for the hall, they were told that the AC's would be fixed before the wedding day but they weren't fixed; it left the hall hot, coupled with the fact that it was overcrowded as well.

REMEDY
PLEASE IF YOU KNOW THAT YOU WILL HAVE MUCH MORE THAN WHAT YOU ARE PREPARED FOR, PLEASE GET AT LEAST 2 SECURITY OFFICERS TO HELP WITH THE EXCESS CROWD. IT WILL BE MONEY WELL SPENT.

The Decoration
I don't know what went wrong, the hall (I mean the chair and table arrangement) wasn't set until the morning of the event, hence the decorator couldn't finish the decoration. She ended up decorating only the stage and left the chairs and tables not covered (plastic chairs and tables). It was more annoying when I confirmed how much was paid for the decor.

REMEDY
A COORDINATOR WOULD HAVE MADE SURE THAT THE HALL WAS SET AND THAT THE DECORATOR FINISHES THE DECOR. YOU CAN ALSO USE A FAMILY MEMBER OR FRIEND TO TAKE CARE OF THAT.

ORGANISATION
Organisation was very poor. The MC had to keep announcing that they should clear the road for the couple to dance down the aisle. Local photographers and hawkers just won't make room for anyone else. It was a very annoying sight. The local photographers won't even allow the official photographer to take pictures; they were practically pushing him out of the way until the groom got really angry and asked them to leave (imagine that!)

REMEDY
USHERS AND SECURITY. THEY WOULD HAVE HELPED CLEAR THE WAY.

The Food
Funnily, the food was more than enough. The only thing I noticed was that the small chops was served after guests had eaten proper meals. (Small chops is supposed to be a starter, in case you are wondering).









The MC vs The Band
There is always this feud between the Band and the DJ, but this was way out of hand. The Band got so out of hand and started saying annoying things about the couple into the microphone! Like what?!!! Who does that?! Funny, I was still thinking that if he performed well, I would get his contact and start using him but that really annoyed me. He started saying angry words to the DJ, all because he wanted to perform on time and be sprayed money before the guests left. He kept interrupting the MC and insulting her. Thank God she was mature enough not to reply him. It was like he was sent to cause chaos at the wedding ceremony. It was really bad.

REMEDY
A COORDINATOR WOULD HAVE PUT HIM IN CHECK. I ALWAYS ADVISE THAT THE DJ AND MC GET ACQUAINTED BEFORE THE EVENT DAY. THEY SHOULD BOTH COME FOR THE VENDORS MEETING AND ALSO AGREE ON WHEN TO ALLOW THE OTHER TAKE CHARGE.


Like I always say, a wedding doesn't have to be expensive to be memorable. A lot of things could have been avoided at this wedding, even with the overcrowded hall. It is important that you get good recommendations from other people about a particular vendor you are considering to use. 

A budget wedding may not have everything but it can be as memorable as you want it to be. Focus on what's important, spend money on the important things, make sure you double check on everything and please get a wedding day coordinator. It will be money well spent!

REMEMBER, We do it best at La' Heiress Hospitality Services. Let's make that special day of yours a memorable one for years to come!

Wednesday 27 May 2015

Wedding Tip of the Week


Bridal Scent


Your hair and makeup matters on the big day, but also take time to think about your wedding day fragrance. Our sense of smell is one of the strongest senses, evoking memories, thoughts and feelings that linger in our minds for years. So take some time out to find something that will be distinctive and serve as a reminder of your wedding day for years to come.

Sunday 17 May 2015

Sunday Specials: An Inspiring Love Story




My husband is an Engineer by profession, I love him for his steady nature, and I love the warm feeling when I lean against his broad shoulders.Three years of courtship and now, two years into marriage, I would have to admit, that I am getting tired of it.

 The reasons of me loving him before, has now transformed into the cause of all my restlessness.I am a sentimental woman and extremely sensitive when it comes to a relationship and my feelings, I yearn for the romantic moments, like a little girl yearning for candy. My husband, is my complete opposite, his lack of sensitivity, and the inability of bringing romantic moments into our marriage has disheartened me about love.


One day, I finally decided to tell him my decision, that I wanted a divorce.“Why?” he asked, shocked. “I am tired, there are no reasons for everything in the world!” I answered. He kept silent the whole night, seems to be in deep thought with a lighted cigarette at all times.

My feeling of disappointment only increased, here was a man who can’t even express his predicament, what else can I hope from him? And finally he asked me:” What can I do to change your mind?”Somebody said it right, it’s hard to change a person’s personality, and I guess, I have started losing faith in him. Looking deep into his eyes I slowly answered :
“Here is the question, if you can answer and convince my heart, I will change my mind, Let’s say, I want a flower located on the face of a mountain cliff, and we both are sure that picking the flower will cause your death, will you do it for me?”

He said :” I will give you your answer tomorrow….” My hopes just sank by listening to his response.I woke up the next morning to find him gone, and saw a piece of paper with his scratchy handwriting, underneath a milk glass, on the dining table near the front door, that goes…. My dear, “I would not pick that flower for you, but please allow me to explain the reasons further..”


This first line was already breaking my heart. I continued reading.“When you use the computer you always mess up the Software programs, and you cry in front of the screen, I have to save my fingers so that I can help to restore the programs. You always leave the house keys behind, thus I have to save my legs to rush home to open the door for you. You love traveling but always lose your way in a new city, I have to save my eyes to show you the way. You always have the cramps whenever your “good friend” approaches every month, I have to save my palms so that I can calm the cramps in your tummy.

You like to stay indoors, and I worry that you will be infected by infantile autism. I have to save my mouth to tell you jokes and stories to cure your boredom. You always stare at the computer, and that will do nothing good for your eyes, I have to save my eyes so that when we grow old, I can help to clip your nails, and help to remove those annoying white hairs. So I can also hold your hand while strolling down the beach, as you enjoy the sunshine and the beautiful sand… and tell you the color of flowers, just like the color of the glow on your young face… Thus, my dear, unless I am sure that there is someone who loves you more than I do… I could not pick that flower yet, and die.. 


My tears fell on the letter, and blurred the ink of his handwriting… and as I continue on reading… “Now, that you have finished reading my answer, if you are satisfied, please open the front door for I am standing outside bringing your favorite bread and fresh milk…

I rush to pull open the door, and saw his anxious face, clutching tightly with his hands, the milk bottle and loaf of bread….Now I am very sure that no one will ever love me as much as he does, and I have decided to leave the flower alone…

That’s life, and love. When one is surrounded by love, the feeling of excitement fades away, and one tends to ignore the true love that lies in between the peace and dullness.Love shows up in all forms, even very small and cheeky forms, it has never been a model, it could be the most dull and boring form.. . flowers, and romantic moments are only used and appear on the surface of the relationship. Under all this, the pillar of true love stands… and that’s our life… Love, not words win arguments


Olamide~ The Heiress


Wednesday 13 May 2015

Wedding Tip of the Week


MUMS

Delegate and always get mothers involved. It's a win all round. You'll have less to worry about doing yourself, the mothers will feel happy and involved in the day, plus it might distract them from areas you'd rather they stayed out of.

Friday 8 May 2015

5 Ways to Manage Wedding Stress.


I don't have to tell you that people planning weddings are stressed out. Between money, time, and general expectations, if you can break down where that stress is coming from, it will be easier to deal with.

5. WEDDING VENDORS. These people want to make money and will pressure you into getting the more expensive option. Have a budget and stick to it. If you're tempted by what they offer that is more expensive, say firmly, "That's not in my budget, I'll have to get back to you."

4. WELL MEANING OPINIONS OF OTHERS. Everyone will want to know the details of your wedding and everyone will have an opinion. Listen to what they have to say, but with a grain of salt. They are not the ones getting married, YOU are.

3. YOUR PARENTS. These people stress us out for various reasons our entire lives, why would they stop now? Whether it's complaining about money you're spending or wanting to have a hand in everything, parents have that special knack to stress us out. Sit down with your parents early in the wedding planning process to find out if they want to give you money for your wedding and how much. Before you go any further, get them to agree on a set number of people they'll be inviting. Don't promise your mother something if you haven't talked to your fiance about it first.

2. DON'T FORGET TO BUDGET! Make sure you sit down at the beginning of the process, agree on how much money you're going to spend, and stick to it! 

1. EACH OTHER. It's true, the number one person who will stress you out the most is the person you're going to spend the rest of your life with. This is mostly because weddings are stressful. The most common complaints are "He's not doing anything to help with the wedding" and "she never talks about anything other than the wedding." Sit down with a wedding planner and divide up the list of tasks into bride's, groom's and together. Each of you will know what you are responsible for.



Olamide~ The Heiress

Tuesday 5 May 2015

Choosing the Right Wedding Invitation




Similar to choosing the perfect wedding dress, ordering invitations can cause bridal panic attacks. First impressions last forever, and wedding invitations set the tone and theme for the entire affair – not to mention the fact that they’ll last forever in your mother-in-law’s scrapbook.Put all that together and it’s easy to see what a central role invites play in your big day. But remember, this is supposed to be fun! Take a deep breath and consider the following invitation details to guide yourself through the process intact.



Theme
Many brides struggle with creating the perfect theme for their weddings. In my experience, brides begin with a theme in mind, but it goes out the window once they see invitation samples they love. Keep an open mind about invitations, especially if you have no locked-in theme or color scheme.


Price
Invitations can get pricey. It’s also difficult to weigh a fair price against the level of quality and detail required. I recommend that brides compare the prices of many vendors to ensure they’re receiving reasonable deals.

Invitation design
Beauty truly is in the eye of the beholder. What one bride loves, another bride hates. In any case, I would recommend that brides stay away from adding photos of the couple to the wedding invitations. Photos of the couple are more appropriate for an engagement party or a save-the-date announcement.


Vendor
Shopping for invitations online can save brides a lot of time, money and stress. Many sites offer a variety of vendors who provide custom design invitations to fit each bride’s unique requirements. It's important to check reviews before placing orders. #La'HeiressPersonalShoppers to the rescue.

My final recommendation when it comes to ordering invitations is to always purchase a sample before placing a full order. This allows brides to physically see the quality of the invitation before placing a large order.

All the above featured invitation cards are available at La' Heiress Hospitality services. Make your order today!

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Monday 4 May 2015

JBW Vendor of the Week: Bukola Abiodun Lawal of Tooshme Beauty and Spa.


Meet the super talented makeup artist, Bukola Abiodun Lawal of Tooshme Beauty and Spa. We saw pictures of some of her works and we were blown away. Not only does she do bridal makeup, she also does on-set behind-the-scenes movie makeup; you know, the one that transforms a young man to an old one. We contacted her and here we are. Meet Bukola of Tooshme beauty and Spa.

Please introduce yourself
My name is Bukola  Abiodun  Lawal, owner at  Tooshme Beauty and Spa‎, Ogba  Ikeja. I am a versatile, professional makeup artist /beauty therapist.‎ I have been doing this for 7 years now. I started off as a freelance makeup artist and officially opened my first makeup outfit in December 2011 and I recently added a full spa lounge to expand my business.

What do you love the most about being a makeup artist?
What I love the most about makeup is the fact that it has a very high influence on our lifestyle. Makeup can either make or break you. If you do not wear the right makeup, take for instance for a job interview, you can be misunderstood for an incompetent or indecent lady but if you wear it correctly, you have an edge over others. However, the nature of the job must always compliment your look for your employer to have confidence in your capability. Makeup also boosts great confidence in you such that it makes you feel very comfortable in your own skin and you can get to dine with higher authorities without feeling inferior.‎

What about your style sets you apart from other Makeup Artists?
Like I said earlier, I am a versatile makeup artist; a very passionate one at that and so I believe I will always stand out with my creative and unique standards because I learn everyday on how to stay trendy even in the way I train my students. I am also a host of a yearly humanitarian fashion show called BOTR (Beauty On The Runway) kicking off officially late this year. Though I have been having it on a low key‎, this year is going to be my first big maiden edition. It's going to be a platform for my students to help them showcase their skills to the world after training, as well as a platform for supporting youths, health, poverty alleviation etc, generally to help sustain the growth of the economy in Nigeria and the rest of Africa with time.‎


Who are the other makeup artists home and abroad that inspire you?
Makeup artists who inspire me a lot in Nigeria are Banke  Meshida-Lawal of BM|PRO  and Lola  Maja- Okojevoh of ‎My Sacred Beauty, both of which are great mentors and instructors. My mentor abroad is Iman of Iman cosmetics; she inspires me a lot with her subtle nude signature makeup and also because she's got the African flavor in her brand of products.



What makes wedding makeup prices higher than a normal day's makeup?
A wedding is classified as being successful only when you have timeless memories of it. A makeup artist is one of the very important vendors you need to always consult even before you choose your colors of the day; that is how important they are. A wedding day is not a day to start trying out a DIY ( Do It Yourself); it's a day to look your best for your man and your families. So many things can go wrong if your makeup is not professionally done. Your in-laws, pastors, Imams etc may get a wrong impression of your personality if it's done wrongly so you can't afford to go wrong on a day you should look your best! This is where professionalism is needed ‎and good things, they say, don't come cheap. It takes weeks that turn into days and finally  to an hour of planning and getting the best ideas to make you stand out on your big day and that is why it's different from every other type of makeup. ‎

Would you advise a bride to do her own makeup on her wedding day? If yes/no, why?
I would never advise that a bride should try a DIY for her wedding, no matter the condition. Weddings are sacred and very special. It is just a matter of doing what you can afford. There are a couple of professional makeup artists who are still very considerate and flexible in their dealings. All you need to do is keep making inquiries till you get a good bargain that can go well with your budget. 



What are some common beauty mistakes that women make?
Common beauty mistakes that women make are so many but I will mention two major ones I find very unpleasant as below:
1) Applying layers of foundation just to get lighter‎: This procedure is very disgusting because a lot of women believe that looking fairer than their skin tone will make them stand out. Apparently it will, but in a negative way. The consequence of this act is that your face becomes lighter than your body. It also makes  your face look unnatural and cakey leaving it breathless. All of these may give you blemishes and wrinkles afterwards.
2) Wear a lip liner  that is the exact color of your lipstick: ‎ This is one very common mistake that women make. Majority of women do this a lot! They like to apply a black lip liner especially to natural lip line and then wear their lipstick. This does not look good at all. Your lips are meant to be luscious, soft and attractive. Do not scare your man or the audience waiting to hear your speech at an important gathering.Your lips are your weapon of command. 



What beauty products would you recommend for the Do-it-yourself Bride?
Like I earlier said, I don't encourage a DIY for brides but if you insist on having it your way, I will suggest that you understand your skin tone, skin type and face shape and then go for products that perfectly compliment them. 

What is your favourite makeup item and why?
My favorite makeup item is my Stippling brush ‎because I am very finicky about achieving a flawless, air brushed look. That brush is a must have for every MUA.


What are some of the challenges you face in the Makeup Industry?
Challenges are faced in all types of careers and the beauty world is not an exemption. My major challenge is the lack of recognition in terms of how people still don't value makeup artists especially in Nigeria. This is really affecting the growth of the makeup industry. Majority of the people don't see us as important yet they can't do without us. For instance who is an actor, a brand ambassador or a celebrity without a makeup artist? Who helps interpret and  sell a brand to the world? It takes a lot of hardwork to be at the backstage making sure everything is all right yet we get peanuts or almost nothing like we don't have bills to pay. All of these don't happen abroad. Makeup artists are highly respected influential people in other parts of the world but here, it takes great passion and sacrifice to still be relevant. 

How do you keep up with trends in the industry?
To keep up with trends as a makeup artist, one needs to always thirst for more knowledge. I do that by keeping close tabs with the successful ‎gurus in the industry, learn from them and always try to do things differently and even better than them. 


Your industry is majorly female populated; why do you think this is so?
Well, majorly YES there are more females than males. ‎But recently, I must confess that gradually, makeup is beginning to gain grounds with how our pacesetters have started organizing seminars,giving awards etc. These have indeed encouraged our Male counterparts and we now have a great number of them around


What advice can you give to an aspiring make up artist?
What I always ask my students at our first class is if they have the passion for makeup. The reason why I ask this question is because just like every other career, the makeup artistry is not a junkyard where you just come around because you think you are less busy. Makeup artistry is a big deal! And it takes a lot of passion, perseverance, tolerance and hardwork to become successful in it. So many distractions and discouragement from the career itself and even your family, but it can be overcome with focus as your watchword. 






Name: Adebukola Abiodun Lawal
Name Of Outfit: Tooshme Beauty and Spa
Location: 1 Isheri/Ogunnusi Road, Opposite Excellence hotel,Ogba-Aguda, Ikeja-Lagos 
‎Phone: 08188629737
Email: tooshmebeautystudio@gmail.com
FB pages: Bukola Tooshme, Beauty On The Runway
‎FB: tooshme beautyandspa